Be friends?
Paul Freegale

Dear Doc, My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost three months now. When we first meet things were perfect and now it seems like it's all vanishing. I know he's afraid that he's going to be laid off work and what kind of pressure that can be. We used to go out all the time. He'd come over and bring a movie and we'd just cuddle up on the couch. Now I'm lucky if I get to see him once a week. Another problem is that we've haven't been making love that much anymore. He says it's because threes too much to deal with. I understand that he's going through a rough time but this is also hard for me. I have told him that we should stick together and help one another out.His response to that was "I think I just need sometime to think about what's going on and I think we should just be friends for now".

How am I suppose to react to this? I like him allot and I don't want it to end. We have so much in common it's not even funny. We went to the same university together but we never knew one another. I've been with men who I've had things in common with, but not like this guy. This is the first time I have it all and now I'm losing it all. I'm hoping that all the stress in his life will go away and then things will go back to the way they were before. I'm trying to be as patient and understanding as I can but it's hard. I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to get through all this faster?

Any words of wisdom?

Sophie

Reply from the Doc

Hi Sophie

Sorry to say this girl but your relationship isn't going to last. I just call them as I seem them Even though you're willing to do whatever it takes to make this work sometimes that's not enough. Sorry Sophie things will not be getting back to the way they once were. It's time to wake up and move on. You need to realize that he's blowing you off and giving you the whole "let's just be friends" dump off. When someone tells you they just want to be "friends" it's the end move on.

Doc

She doesn't want you

When a woman is in love she does not end a meaningful relationship and say "let's just be friends" That's what happens when her interest in him is gone and she wants to let him go with care. When a woman likes a guy she won't cut him out of her life, That's just not how this works. Your girlfriend's lame excuse will not hold up. If she was interested in you then she'd be finding comfort in you to help her out with stress. The issue isn't that she's stressed it's she's not interested in you anymore. You need more then just magic

Having magic with a woman is something wonderful to experience. But just because the you're getting along and you have so much in common isn't enough to make it last. You have to know how to reach her emotionally. When done right, a woman's initial attraction to you can be made into something that's meaningful. How do you do this you ask? Well let them chase you. You shall have your pick.