Invest Our Time
Frank Clay

In the pursuit of finding a mate we often times invest more than what our female counter parts do. We spend tons of money trying to win their heart over we say the right things so there is a second date, we do what ever it takes. While this maybe a good approach to getting into her pants, for the long term relationship it isn't. In order to appreciate the value of something, you understand the investment you made. You appreciate the value of your house because you worked hard for it. You appreciate the value of your car because of the time and money you put into it. Women also have to invest something into a relationship so they understand the value of it.

Women also have to invest something into a relationship so they understand the value of it. If you hand everything to her, there is no value in that. Unless she is looking for a sugar daddy to take care of everything. If you want to have a lasting fulfilling relationship, she most also bring something to the table and be able to evaluate the effort she put into it. As men we like to be in control of providing everything. We want to put the food on the table, pay the bills, and control certain aspects of the relationship. When was the last time you wanted to have sex and she didn't, and that made you feel like you were totally out of control? Like no matter how hard you work, you get nothing in return.

One of the ways that you can make her invest into the relationship is by doing things that she might not like. You put up with those damn soap operas all day long, why shouldn't she put up with a baseball game? It is only fair right? By her participating in things that you like and she might not like, it is making her invest in you. If she doesn't want to do this, then it means that you aren't worth investing her time or efforts in. She is out to have her needs met, but not yours.

It also can bring up interesting things. Perhaps she is just looking for a sugar daddy. Maybe she is so immature that she only cares about herself. Needless to say, if you find yourself in such a situation, I would suggest that you get out of it as soon as possible. As much as we might not like to admit it, men like getting affection and attention too. We all have mountains and valleys in our lives. Bad things happen to men too. You may loose a loved one, loose your job, or generally feel like shit from time to time.

It is pointless for you to fulfill the needs of your partner and not have your needs met as well. It will get you nowhere fast. It will cause strain on the relationship and in the end make everything a living hell. You must understand that in order to succeed in life, you must have support. Without support, you will end up not achieving your full potential. How many rich people do you know that don't have some sort of emotional support system? If they don't, they loose their money fast. There is a reason for this, people have emotional needs.

When emotional needs aren't being met, it will drain other aspects of your life. You will begin to see your job performance go down, you may not feel like exercising as often, or you may feel withdrawn from everything. Here are some suggestions that I would use to test if your woman is willing to invest in the relationship. Ask for favors. Ask her to do things for you. Maybe pick up something special for dinner or to clean something out of the ordinary. Don't ask her to lick the toilet clean with her tongue, but ask her to do things that are reasonable.

Let her pay for things. Allow her to take you out for pizza or to a movie. If she isn't willing to spend money on you, move on. Ask her to take you some place. Tell her that you don't feel like driving and you would like a lift to the grocery store. Ask her to pick you up from work. Women do this stuff all the time to test how you feel about them. Why not do it back? It isn't fair to you if you are the one that invests solely into the relationship. Find out what you mean to her. You might be surprised that you mean less to her than you think. You will thank yourself for doing so.