The Art of Kissing
Peter James

"The first kiss is sort of an exploratory, getting-to-know-you thing. In that first kiss, your date will determine if she thinks you come on too strong, not strong enough, or if you're just right. Most women prefer a man to approach them confidently, but not over-confidently. If you've had a really nice time on your date, and you can feel the chemistry between you, it makes sense that you approach your date expecting her to welcome a light goodnight hug and kiss. If you approach your dates like you're God's gift to women, only certain women will find that appealing. Most will find it a total turnoff, and they won't speak well of you to their friends the next day." Most men are proud of their moves. They've spent time figuring out what should work for them. They are are pretty sure they've got the kissing thing down - but do they? Most women say no.

First off, wet lips are a turnoff. Don't lick your lips before you kiss a woman. In fact, if you can discretely dry them, all the better. You may have read about "moist" lips being a plus, but that basically refers to lips that are not chapped. Also a woman will discover if you have bad breath, body odor, or other grooming problems that might not have become apparent earlier in the evening.

Also try and be sure that your hands are dry, your face is shaved (if you shave), and your lips aren't chapped. It's worth using chopstick in dry weather if you hope to be on a date in the near future.

And rough or rushed kisses are a turnoff. Gentle to start off is the general consensus. Women like to be touched softly, at least in the beginning of a kiss.

The First Kiss

The first kiss is sort of an exploratory, getting-to-know-you thing. In that first kiss, your date will determine if she thinks you come on too strong, not strong enough, or if you're just right. Most women prefer a man to approach them confidently, but not over-confidently. If you've had a really nice time on your date, and you can feel the chemistry between you, it makes sense that you approach your date expecting her to welcome a light goodnight hug and kiss.

If you approach your dates like you're God's gift to women, only certain women will find that appealing. Most will find it a total turnoff, and they won't speak well of you to their friends the next day.

Most women don't appreciate their first kiss from their date including a lot of tongue or saliva. They're not usually ready to accept any penetration, not even of their mouths.

Shy Men and the First Kiss

Some women like a shy guy, and if you ARE a shy guy, those would be the best women to date. If you have let her see the real you before and during the date, let her see that you are not a macho man or a big talker, she'll expect you to be the way you are. If you're hesitant or unsure, it's an actual plus for women who have the nurturing instinct.

Sometimes a light kiss on the lips, followed by pulling away so your faces are close but you are no longer touching is effective. Often, she will move to you to continue.

Kissing Techniques that Work

Something that works well is to touch her lips gently with your finger right before or after a kiss. Touch her toward the middle and center of her lips, just above where they meet. If she is someone you know well, you can trace her lips with your finger. Always look at her while you do so.

Try this: kiss her gently at first, lips closed. After a few seconds, allow your lips to part slightly and let just a hint of tongue touch her lips. Pull away just a little.

Kiss her again, allowing a little more tongue.

Pull away, just a little.

Keep eye contact if your eyes are open.

Next kiss, insert just a little of your tongue just inside the part of her lips.

And soon. two things about this: one, if she is not quite ready to kiss you with tongue, she will pull away a little, so you'll know to slow down. And also it is a great tease, and a gradual way to get things going if you know each other or are ready to move on to more.

Kissing is physical sharing of yourself. It is trying to share more of the person you are with. Women often place more importance on kissing than on actual intercourse, so let her know who you really are.